When Confidence isn't an issue, neither is Style!

                denim on denim

I came across this beauty on IG. She reminded me of how much I hated the way I looked with short hair. I cut my hair after finding out my husband was cheating. We were going to marital counseling at the time. Looking back, I can see that marital counseling wasn't what I needed. I was on a new journey to find myself, love myself and accept my flaws. I needed a spiritual breakthrough. And that's exactly what I got.

I couldn't see it but I kept comparing myself to the girl he cheated with. There was really no comparison. But in the depth of my pain I had lost my self worth. I was valuing myself based on the relationship and what people thought of us, not my true worth.

            kenya kirkland                                    

            kenya kirkland

I learned through that journey that I am beautiful, talented, amazing with a man or without. I'm dope whether the world can see it or not! He couldn't see my magic. He still doesn't see my magic. But my magic isn't for him!

Once you find your magic. NO ONE can take it away or make you question it. #iamMAGIC #andsoareYOU

I can't end this post without giving all praise to Jesus Christ for walking me through the highs and lows of this journey. To be honest, I'm still going through. There are still rough days. Days that I miss my husband. Days that I miss my family being whole and complete. There are days that I think "why is my family broken, why me?" And at the end of each of those days I remember that I'm chosen...chosen for something greater. I've been chosen to be the last woman in my family to experience this. I'm carrying this burden for my daughters. I'm learning a lesson that is teaching me to be a woman of God, a loving Mother, an amazing wife...this is all preparation for the blessing he has for me.


I hope this post encourages you to fight through your tough time, remembering that this is just a test. Live so that you have a testimony. I love you.




Stylishly yours,

Kenya K.

                   warm the streets LA

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